Week 21 – Fear As A Tool For Growth

Through the last several weeks of class and masterminding I have been contemplating what is it exactly that I feel I need to break through to reach my goals. And given the homework task of discovering ways to use guilt, fear, unworthiness, anger, and hurt as tools for growth I was doubly motivated to “figure this thing out” and finally breakthrough it!

I feel that up until now the reason I have had difficulty building my business and releasing the weight I would like has been due to fear…

As I stated in my last post… Week 20 – False Evidence Appearing Real the fears I run around constantly are: fear of what people think, fear of making a wrong decision, and the fear of talking to people.

Really distilling it down to one it can be described as the fear of being authentically me.

In this past week’s webinar Davene stated that at one point in her life she realized she was addicted to a certain feeling….. Hmmmmmmm….. I am addicted to fear.

Ok. Let’s do the run down of questions.

When I feel the fear… what am I feeling?

A gnawing at the pit of my stomach.

Inability to focus.

Desire to run from the task at hand.

Irritability.

Anger.

So if these are the “effects” then I must change the cause. And we have learned that the cause of everything is thought.

So, What am I pretending not to know?

I am pretending that I am not a person that someone would want to be friends with. I am pretending that I don’t know how to do the task. I am pretending that someone won’t like me. I am pretending that they will yell at me for bothering them. I am pretending that I never follow through or become successful.

So I stop. I pull away. I quit. I don’t follow through. I find an excuse as to why I couldn’t.

What would the person who I intend to become, do next?

That person would believe that she has something of value and worthwhile for the other person to see and hear about. That person would separate the feeling of being liked from the business. That person would not even consider that she was bothering anybody. That person would stay committed and in action UNTIL success was reached.

This process gave me a very big awareness and insight of what I have been doing unconsciously that has been thwarting me and my success.

And because I AM A MIRACLE, and I believe that everything is a miracle…. I am choosing to believe that MY THOUGHT of that I have a problem called fear…. is the faulty thought giving me faulty results.

My new thought is I am a MIRACLE and I PERSIST until I SUCCEED.

RECAP:

  • Thorough and honest admitting of the addiction to an emotion that is not serving.
  • “I am addicted to the feelings of____________”
  • What am I feeling? Where in my body?
  • Change the cause…. The cause is the “thought” that is eliciting the feeling.
  • What am I pretending not to know?
  • What would the person I intend to become, do next?
  • Move on.

🙂